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Interpersonal Relationships

  • April 16, 2019A Team of Two

    My guitar teacher has been honing his skills as a musician and educator for about 25 years. I have been working on my chops for about 50. It has taken me twice as long to get half as good. Face it, practicing thirty-to-sixty minutes daily will never achieve the results of devoting three-to-six hours each day. Even if I step up to his pace, there aren’t enough years remaining in a human life span to learn to play at his level.

    This is why I selected him for my team of two. I will always have new goals that seem nearly out of reach, yet attainable with hard work. This partnership has an unspoken recipe.

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  • January 9, 2019Strengthen One Relationship

    Time is precious. The team’s highest priorities get attention and less important things get neglected. Unfortunately, the subjects of neglect are often people. When someone feels like a low priority, engagement suffers. These teammates come to work, do their job, go home, and collect their paychecks. Why would they go the extra mile? Yet, when we invest in people, they grow. Sleepwalkers become evangelists. Look at your team roster. Identify the teammate most likely to thrive if fed. Sponsor his or her development. Here’s how.

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  • April 18, 2018When Your Teammates Act Like Children

    Sometimes the influences of team behavior are in the here and now. Teammates are responding directly to each other and managing present day challenges. Other times, teammates behave in reaction to historical patterns and traumas. Colleagues become siblings. Bosses, managers, and supervisors become parents. This can get messy.

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  • October 5, 2017The Personal Side of Work Friendships

    Most of our waking hours are spent with professional colleagues. Family and friends own the biggest portion of our hearts but work teammates win the quantity contest. While the setting and the stakes might be different, the recipe for building strong connections is the same whether at home or at the office. Let’s look at the ingredients.

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  • August 8, 2017The Partnership Impact

    The wellness of a team is often determined by the health of the partnerships in leadership. In families, the quality of the marriage has a significant impact on the life of the children. In business, the relationship with the chief executive and his or her operations leaders usually shapes the delivery of the organizational mission. Likewise, dysfunction in these partnerships is the fastest way to undermine a team’s effectiveness. What if you could quickly assess the health or sickness of your most important partnership?

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  • August 3, 2015The Team within the Team

    As complicated as team dynamics can be, effective teamwork usually begins with simple relationship wellness. Teams are built on a foundation of interpersonal interaction. Communication is the action that multiplies the energy of the group. The health of the team is dependent on the quality of the exchange between its members. While some teams devote valuable time to the politics that often resemble the cliques in a high school cafeteria, other teams opt for clear, adult, mature, and productive give-and-take. Consider these seven drivers of constructive relationships:

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  • April 15, 2015How Work Teams and Friendships are Alike

    Relationships share similar dynamics whether small or large. We are most familiar with the exchanges that are traded in interpersonal settings since the majority of our connections are one-to-one partnerships. When you expand these interactions to a team, the complexity multiplies. What if the model for successful partnerships was the same regardless of the size or scale of the team?

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  • March 7, 2014The Purpose of Struggle

    The Team Clock Institute’s upcoming release, Useful Pain: Why Your Relationships Need Struggle, was written as an enticement for growth. Based on a simple concept, interactions between partners are viewed in necessary cycles of meaningful challenge.

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  • November 4, 2013The Boardroom and the Bedroom

    When Team Clock was published in 2009, we offered up a simple model for creating and sustaining effective teams. As I shared the Team Clock concept with business leaders, time and again people asked me how these principles applied to interpersonal relationships. Could the conflict resolution and team building strategies applied in the boardroom also work in the bedroom? Does the cycle of investment, trust, innovation, and distancing play out between friends and management teams alike?

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  • March 4, 2013The Intimacy of Teams

    The eyes of the 21-year-old college student lit up as she raised her hand. She had experienced an epiphany. Suddenly, the theory of effective teaming crystallized when she applied it to a current romantic relationship. “I have a personal responsibility for my contribution to the relationship I’ve joined,” she observed. “The entity itself needs to be nurtured and cultivated.” Not surprisingly, the same “ah-ha” moment had occurred in a recent executive coaching conversation in a global telecommunications company with a senior leader twice her age.

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  • March 16, 2011Defining Moments

    At its most basic core, what is your contribution to your team? I’m not talking about the easily visible actions. I’m asking about the themes and patterns that define your life and, as a result, get played out in your professional role.

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  • December 28, 2010Time Zones

    Often, workshop participants ask whether someone can exist at two times on the Team Clock at once. Recently, I found myself at 12:00 and 6:00 simultaneously.

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