The vast majority of coaching and training sessions at the Center for Team Excellence have taken place on a virtual platform over the past ten months. Our consultant team reports feeling depleted. We’re not alone. ‘Zoom fatigue’ reportedly affects more than 300 million daily users. The current research tells us that viewing a video screen doesn’t light up the same neurological pathways that face-to-face contact ignites. The cost-reward ratio simply doesn’t pay off since the effort to connect doesn’t generate the same dopamine buzz we get around the water cooler in the breakroom. How do we bring the buzz back?

Like human relationships, music composition is created by moving from dissonance to harmony. Composers know exactly how to take listeners on an emotional journey by establishing tension and then bringing the discomfort to resolution. Sometimes, a ‘wrong’ note is written into the piece with intention. Once the unexpected obstacle is introduced, it forces the listener to anticipate more harmonious interplay between the notes. Just like the problem solving that follows team conflict, it’s not about the wrong note. The way forward is about how we adapt to it.

Pre-Traumatic Stress. At one time or another, almost everyone suffers from this behavioral health condition. The better-known Post Traumatic Stress is the mind’s way of coping with the aftermath of trauma. The lesser-known P (Pre) is the psyche’s way of anticipating adversity. It’s the form of anxiety that tells you there’s danger ahead. It is the insidious wearing down of the immune system that comes from prolonged stress. Bracing for a loss can consume more energy than enduring one. If this feels familiar, read on.

A year ago, a typical work day included face-to-face conversations, small groups seated around conference tables, and larger gatherings in auditoriums. While the geography of interaction has become socially distant, the volume of exchange has grown for many working professionals. Many spend their days in back-to-back virtual meetings in front of a screen. Change of this magnitude is best managed when something tangible is staying the same. What hasn’t changed is the fundamental principle of teamwork. Let’s take a closer look at the infrastructure that anchors teams during periods of disruption.

Most of the choices we exercise throughout the day are inconsequential. Sometimes, there are days or decisions that have the power to pivot lives. Whether to have Wheaties or Cheerios for breakfast doesn’t alter the universe. Voting does.

We now have to challenge the assumption that team culture requires teammates to be in the same space. We have to question whether the Zoom screen barrier prevents true connection. We have to decide whether working from home means we have to wait until ‘things get back to normal’ before, well, things get back to normal. In the classic denial stage of grief, it somehow feels better to believe that conference rooms, auditoriums and shared workspaces will someday fill back up with teammates. When that miracle happens, we can get back to life as we knew it before the loss. Think again.

Teams often evolve like the arc of a crescendo in music. There’s a specific time in the team’s lifespan where the tension is supposed to build and, eventually, give way to resolution. In most songs, it happens near the end. In teams, the buildup is experienced as dissonance. When differences get worked out, it feels like harmony. The tension is the work and the resolution is the play.

When teams struggle, the camera zooms in on the problem and forces an up-close perspective. Like anything you place under a microscope, you sacrifice the big picture in favor of the tiny details. Teams under duress tend to look at the dynamics playing out between teammates, often ignoring the overall wellness of the larger group. We pay attention to the symptoms rather than the causes. Let’s widen the lens.

Adult coping skills are built for crisis management. Some fight, some flee and some freeze. Each instinct has value. The fighters take action, the fleers seek safety and the freezers observe. Action, safety and observation are all important aspects of navigating trouble. In the moment of the challenge, the body ramps up some functions (heart rate, brain speed) and slows down others (immune system, digestion). All of this is designed to make us more focused and efficient under duress. However, this heightened state is unsustainable for long periods. These days, you don’t have to look too far to find a team falling apart under the pressure of prolonged stress.

It takes one “small world” discovery to remind us of the power of connection. Our circles of friends and professional networks overlap in unexpected ways. Relationships established decades ago resurface as new circumstances elevate new partnerships. Perhaps this phenomenon arises out of random chance. Or maybe…

Athletes routinely predict a strong offseason promising to come back in tiptop shape for the next campaign. When preseason training begins, only an elite few have actually put in the work needed to fulfill the prediction. The others scramble to catch up and the team’s overall readiness is impacted by this odd blend of physical and mental preparedness. The team’s success rests on a collection of individual commitments. So, which teammate are you going to be when the whistle blows?

There are big losses and little losses. When your favorite sports team loses a game, the disappointment is commensurate with the level of connection. The life-long fan feels worse than the casual fan. When the family pet dies, the kid who grew up feeling like Fido was a sibling feels worse than stepdad who inherited the dog when he married the kid’s mom. When a business closes due to the economic impact of a pandemic, the ripples spread beyond owners and employees to vendors, customers and communities. In each example, the greater the attachment, the greater the loss.